We get certificates for everything in life.
Except how to
love each other.
How to build a family, and how to be both parents and lovers at the same time.
Book your intake session"Even if, at first, only one of you is willing to do the work."
— Emanuela Deyanova
Why this work matters
A relationship crisis can be the greatest opportunity for a breakthrough — not necessarily a breakup. Yet many couples have never learned how the dynamics of a relationship actually work. This leads, unfortunately, to unnecessary separation and pain.
That's why I wrote a book about it (Oneindige Liefde / Infinite Love), and why I see it as my mission to guide couples in their brave search for each other again.
Even though every couple is different, there is a foundation for a great relationship. With the right tools and techniques, a conflict between partners can become, instead of the beginning of the end, the starting point of a much stronger bond. Even if, at first, only one of you is willing to do the work.
What happens in a session
We look beyond the words, at what is actually happening between you.
We uncover the patterns
We uncover the subconscious beliefs and old patterns that shape the way you react to each other, and begin to respond differently in those moments.
You speak from what you need
You start to recognise the difference between reacting from pain and speaking from what you truly need — and that difference changes everything.
You stay present
You learn to stay present in moments where you would normally shut down or turn away from each other.
What's been building, surfaces
We bring words to what has been building underneath the surface, before it turns into distance or conflict.
Safety for the truth
We create enough safety between you so that what has been unspoken for a long time can finally be said.
What this creates
A relationship where both of you feel seen.
A deeper understanding between you.
Less tension. The deep, honest conversations you've been longing for.
Space for intimacy, joy, and connection again.
A relationship where both of you feel seen, supported, and understood.
"Love doesn't disappear. It hides behind the words we never found the courage to say."— Emanuela Deyanova
How I work
Depth with direction.
The foundation of my work is Integrative Psychotherapy, Imago Therapy, and EFT — Emotionally Focused Therapy, developed by Sue Johnson. I also draw from systemic work.
These are not abstract theories. They are precise tools for understanding why you keep ending up in the same place, and for building a way out together.
How we work together
A clear path, not an endless process.
Step 1 — The intake session
We begin by understanding what you need
We begin with an intake session of 75 minutes to understand what you and your relationship need, what's underneath the surface, and whether working together feels right.
Step 2 — 6 to 8 sessions
This is where things begin to shift
From there, most couples start with a sequence of 6 to 8 sessions. This is usually where things begin to shift, patterns become visible and conversations start to change. Every story is different, and it's completely normal for the process to go deeper and take longer. Real, lasting change isn't rushed.
Step 3 — Evaluate and go deeper
Real, lasting transformation
After the initial sequence we check in together. Where are you now? What has shifted? What do you still want? For couples who want to understand their patterns at the root, this is where the real transformation happens. Not just in how you communicate, but in how you show up as a partner, a parent, a person. And that ripples out into your children, your family, and the world around you.
Practical details
Everything you need to know.
Not sure yet? You can book a free introductory call first — a short conversation to see if working together feels right.
Want to go deeper, faster?
The Deep Dive — a 2-day intensive
Some couples don't have the luxury of time. Others want to compress months of work into two focused days. And some arrive at a moment where waiting another week feels impossible.
The Deep Dive is two full weekdays, just the two of you, with my complete attention — dedicated entirely to your relationship. We start each morning at 9:30 and wrap around 17:00. There's a midday lunch break to breathe and eat somewhere nearby.
We usually wrap around 17:00, leaving you the evening free. I recommend staying overnight. Not going back to daily life between the two days keeps the focus alive and gives you something rare: uninterrupted time with each other.
What's included
The Deep Dive is not a guarantee that therapy is finished.
For some couples it's a powerful beginning, a launchpad into regular sessions to keep the momentum alive. For others, two days shifts everything.
What it always is, is a concentrated moment of truth that you carry with you long after you leave. Ready to go deeper? Let's talk.
What people say
Who did the work.
"With warmth, safety, and just the right touch of humour, Emanuela guided us through the hardest stretch of our relationship. A year later we're living together again — and still telling each other how grateful we are."
"The love was always there — we just couldn't see or feel it anymore. Emanuela has the rare talent of knowing exactly what is needed, gentle and precise at the same time."
"For the first time in years, I understood why I keep shutting down. That alone was worth everything. The rest followed naturally."
Relationship Therapy in Amsterdam
School of Love offers relationship therapy in Amsterdam and online — for couples who are stuck in recurring patterns, have lost their connection, or simply want more from their relationship. Emanuela Deyanova works with Imago Relationship Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), methods that are scientifically validated and focused on the underlying dynamics between partners.
Couple therapy in Amsterdam is available on location or via online sessions — flexibly tailored to your situation. Sessions are available in Dutch, English, Spanish, and Bulgarian.